Best Advice For New Mamas

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There is no feeling in the world like holding your newborn baby in your arms for the first time.  After nine long months of waiting, you are finally able to see, touch, and smell your sweet baby.  It is an exhilarating time of so many emotions.  And then you bring your baby home and realize you are now responsible for this little life.  The gravity of that responsibility can cause many new mamas feelings of doubt, uncertainty, and anxiety.

We asked our facebook fans and friends for some of the best advice they received as new mamas, and what advice they would give to new mamas.  Here is what they said, along with some of my own advice:

– It’s normal to be extremely emotional after the birth of a baby and to experience a wide range of positive and negative emotions in the first few week.  There is a flood of hormones released around day 4 or 5 that can lead to intense emotions.  Give yourself permission to feel a wide range of emotions.

– Plan for and ask for help in the first few weeks after the baby is born.  A new mama’s main jobs should be to rest and feed the baby.  Let your mom, aunties, friends, your maid, etc take care of the rest of the work so you can focus on your baby.

– Stay at home in your pyjamas with baby as long as you can, don’t rush out. (Gina)

– To always keep the baby warm and well breastfed (Linda). 

– Facilitate bonding through skin to skin contact – newborns can’t control their body temperatures well so keeping them warm is very important.  One of the best ways to keep warm is skin to skin contact – put your baby in just a diaper and hold her against your bare chest, then cover both of you with a blanket.  This keeps both mama and baby warm and releases oxytocin, which helps bonding

– Give priority to figure out breastfeeding.  As much as many mamas believe breastfeeding is natural, it doesn’t always come easy and can take a lot of work to get it right.  Putting a lot of time and effort into figuring it out in the first days can save problems later on.  Don’t be afraid to contact your OB, midwife, or lactation consultant if you need help.

– “Don’t be so busy trying to raise a good kid that you forget the one you already have.” I love the idea of watching in wonder as the acorn becomes the oak. Not trying too hard to make something happen that is inevitable. (Christi)

– Sleep when they sleep. Trust yourself. (Laura)

– Trust your instincts. Get advice from different people and be open to suggestions from people who can really give you good ideas. However, at the end of the day, do what works for you and your baby and family. Don’t worry about what people think if you do something other Mums may say not to, but if it works for you, don’t worry about it (e.g. using a pacifier, doing / not doing sleep training). Remember kids are resilient and stronger than we think they are (Gill)

– Listen to all the advice you are given, but then take your own decision s/he is your baby (Harriet)

What would you add to our list?

There is no feeling in the world like holding your newborn baby in your arms for the first time.  After nine long months of waiting, you are finally able to see, touch, and smell your sweet baby.  It is an exhilarating time of so many emotions.  And then you bring your baby home and realize you are now responsible for this little life.  The gravity of that responsibility can cause many new mamas feelings of doubt, uncertainty, and anxiety.

We asked our facebook fans and friends for some of the best advice they received as new mamas, and what advice they would give to new mamas.  Here is what they said, along with some of my own advice:

– It’s normal to be extremely emotional after the birth of a baby and to experience a wide range of positive and negative emotions in the first few week.  There is a flood of hormones released around day 4 or 5 that can lead to intense emotions.  Give yourself permission to feel a wide range of emotions.

– Plan for and ask for help in the first few weeks after the baby is born.  A new mama’s main jobs should be to rest and feed the baby.  Let your mom, aunties, friends, your maid, etc take care of the rest of the work so you can focus on your baby.

– Stay at home in your pyjamas with baby as long as you can, don’t rush out. (Gina)

– To always keep the baby warm and well breastfed (Linda). 

– Facilitate bonding through skin to skin contact – newborns can’t control their body temperatures well so keeping them warm is very important.  One of the best ways to keep warm is skin to skin contact – put your baby in just a diaper and hold her against your bare chest, then cover both of you with a blanket.  This keeps both mama and baby warm and releases oxytocin, which helps bonding

– Give priority to figure out breastfeeding.  As much as many mamas believe breastfeeding is natural, it doesn’t always come easy and can take a lot of work to get it right.  Putting a lot of time and effort into figuring it out in the first days can save problems later on.  Don’t be afraid to contact your OB, midwife, or lactation consultant if you need help.

– “Don’t be so busy trying to raise a good kid that you forget the one you already have.” I love the idea of watching in wonder as the acorn becomes the oak. Not trying too hard to make something happen that is inevitable. (Christi)

– Sleep when they sleep. Trust yourself. (Laura)

– Trust your instincts. Get advice from different people and be open to suggestions from people who can really give you good ideas. However, at the end of the day, do what works for you and your baby and family. Don’t worry about what people think if you do something other Mums may say not to, but if it works for you, don’t worry about it (e.g. using a pacifier, doing / not doing sleep training). Remember kids are resilient and stronger than we think they are (Gill)

– Listen to all the advice you are given, but then take your own decision s/he is your baby (Harriet)

What would you add to our list?

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